Topic Overview
What is child abuse and neglect?
Child abuse and neglect includes any act that harms a child. Some
people use the term “child maltreatment” to include both abuse and neglect.
Children who are maltreated may suffer in many ways. Young
children are at special risk. They may not grow properly, or they may have
learning problems. They may feel bad about themselves and not trust other
people. They may be scared or angry. Sometimes they die.
Children are not able to understand that abuse or neglect is not
their fault. They may think that they did something wrong and deserve what
happened. It is up to adults who care to protect them. If you know about or
suspect child abuse or neglect, there are ways you can help.
What are the types of abuse and neglect?
Child abuse means doing something that hurts a child. This may be
physical, emotional, or sexual. Neglect means not giving or doing something
that a child needs.
- Physical abuse is often the easiest type to
notice. It includes hitting, kicking, shaking, pinching, and burning. It may
leave bruises, cuts, or other marks and cause pain, broken bones, or internal
injuries.
- Emotional abuse is saying or doing things that make a
child feel unloved, unwanted, unsafe, or worthless. It can range from yelling
and threatening to ignoring the child and not giving love and support. It may
not leave scars you can see, but the damage to a child is just as
real.
- Sexual abuse is any sexual contact between an adult and a
child or between an older child and a younger child. Showing pornography to a
child is a type of sexual abuse.
- Neglect happens when a child
does not get the shelter, schooling, clothing, medical care, or protection he
or she needs. Child neglect is just as serious as abuse and is even more
common.
What should you do if you suspect that a child has been abused or neglected?
Call the police or local child protective services. You do not
have to give your name. A hospital may be able to connect you to places in your
area that can help. Many hospitals have special programs to deal with child
abuse and neglect.
If a child is in immediate danger or has been badly hurt, don't
wait: Call 911 or other emergency services
right away.
If you are a child or teen who is being abused, don't keep the
secret. Tell someone who can make a difference—a trusted family member,
teacher, counsellor, or doctor. You can also call Kids Help Phone at
1-800-668-6868. You do not deserve to be abused.
The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is open 24 hours a
day, 7 days a week to offer information, advice, and support. Call
1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453).
What should you do if you are afraid someone might harm your child?
If you think your child is in immediate danger, call
911 and get your child to a safe place and
stay there. This may be the home of a close friend or family member or a
domestic violence shelter. Call a trusted health professional, a child abuse
organization, or the police to find help in your area.
If you are worried about the way someone acts around your child,
find a quiet time to talk with the person alone. Help the person learn about
child development issues. If it is your partner, you could take a parenting
class together. Plan what you will do next if your concerns become more
serious. Then follow through with your plan.
How can you prevent child abuse and neglect?
To protect your child from abuse:
- Listen to your child. Let him or her know it
is safe to talk about anything with you.
- Get to know your child’s
friends and their families.
- Screen all caregivers, such as
babysitters and daycare centres. Find out what they know about child health,
child development, and child care. This may include getting permission for a
police background check.
- Teach your child the proper names for
the private parts of his or her body. Teach the difference between “good touch”
and “bad touch.”
- Ask a family member or friend to give you a break when you
feel overwhelmed. Learn healthy ways to manage stress. Look online for sources
of information and support, such as Parents Anonymous
(http://www.parentsanonymous.org).
- If you were ever abused, get
help so you don't pass the cycle of abuse on to your children. A good place to
start is the Childhelp Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). You can
talk to a counsellor for free without giving your name.
To help children in your area:
- Learn to recognize the signs of abuse and
neglect. For example, a child may not grow as expected, may be dirty or
unhealthy, or may seem fearful, anxious, or depressed.
- Know the
names of your neighbours and their children. Offer to help a new parent. Child
abuse becomes less likely if parents and caregivers feel
supported.
- Be an advocate for children. Support groups that help
parents at risk of abusing their children. Donate time, money, or goods to a
local domestic violence shelter.
- If you see abuse or neglect
happening, speak up. A child’s life may depend on it.
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