Should I put my relative with Alzheimer's or other dementia in a nursing home?
Introduction
This information will help you understand your choices, whether you share in the decision-making process or rely on your doctor's recommendation.
Key points in making your decision
The decision to put a relative with Alzheimer's disease or another dementia in a nursing home is often difficult. Caring for someone with one of these conditions at home requires significant social, financial, and personal sacrifices. Every family has different needs, preferences, and constraints to think about.
Consider the following when making your decision:
- People with Alzheimer's or other dementia need a safe, structured environment. You may be able to provide this at home; in other cases, nursing home placement is a better choice.
- People with a dementing disease usually need an increasing level of care and assistance as time goes by. Eventually, your relative will most likely have to be moved to a long-term care facility.
- By using adult daycare programs and part-time help, whether hired or offered by other family members and friends, you may be able to keep your relative at home longer.
- Remember that your physical and emotional health is as important as that of the person you're caring for.
- Deciding to put your relative in a nursing home is not a sign of failure in your role as caregiver.
Medical Information
What happens as Alzheimer's disease or another dementing disease progresses?
The level of care and assistance a person requires increases as the disease progresses. Basic activities such as eating, dressing, bathing, using the bathroom, and simply moving around become more difficult or impossible for the person to do alone. Disruptive, frustrating, and sometimes dangerous behaviour problems may develop. These behaviours often pose the biggest challenge for caregivers. Taking care of the person at home often becomes more difficult or even impossible, both physically and emotionally.
At the same time, your relative may become less aware of who you are and where he or she is. Some people feel that caring for their spouse or parent at home is important only so long as the person knows them and knows that he or she is at home.
What kinds of long-term care facilities are available?
“Nursing home” is commonly used when referring to any long-term care facility, but there are several kinds of long-term care facilities. Each provides different levels of medical care, personal assistance, and programs and support services. The quality and costs of care and services at long-term care facilities vary widely, and options vary from community to community.
- Assisted-living facilities usually provide private, apartment-style housing and offer a range of services. These services may include meals, cleaning and laundry services, and help with personal needs, such as bathing, grooming, and dressing. Assisted-living facilities do not provide medical care. An assisted-living facility may be appropriate for people with early mild Alzheimer's disease or another dementia who cannot live alone but who can still function fairly well on their own.
- Residential care facilities, which include intermediate, extended, complex and chronic care facilities as well as nursing homes, typically provide a greater level of supervision than assisted-living facilities. They offer community-style housing, meals, laundry and cleaning services, and help with other personal needs. They all provide daily medical care. A residential care facility may be appropriate for a person with Alzheimer's disease or other dementia who needs daily assistance and supervision.
- Continuing-care communities are often private residential care facilities that offer different levels of care, from assisted living to full nursing care, within the same facility. These facilities are an expensive but appealing option for caregivers looking at long-term care because they are well equipped to meet the person's changing needs as the disease progresses.
What are the options for part-time care?
Some people find that part-time help allows them to keep their relative at home for a longer time. Part-time care may take place either at home or in an adult daycare facility. As in long-term care facilities, home care can provide different levels of assistance. A home health aide, for instance, can help with tasks such as bathing, cleaning, and washing clothes and linens, while a nurse may provide medical care and help with behaviour issues. Adult daycare and respite services assume temporary responsibility for the person and allow the regular caregiver to take a break. This may relieve some of the stress of caregiving and allow time for other responsibilities and activities.
Hiring health professionals or other caregivers to provide around-the-clock care in the home is another option. This option is more expensive than a nursing home and also requires time to hire, supervise, and coordinate the team of caregivers.
Your Information
Your choices are:
- Care for your relative at home. Some caregivers may also consider part-time care at home with a home health aide or nurse or in an adult daycare facility.
- Put your relative in a nursing home or other long-term care facility.
The decision about nursing home placement should take into account your personal feelings and the medical facts.
Reasons to consider putting your relative in a nursing home
Reasons to consider keeping your relative at home
- Your relative's behaviour has become dangerous or disruptive to you and your household.
- Your own health is at risk.
- The burden of caregiving is too great, and you have no one to help you.
- A nursing home may offer a safer, more controlled situation for your relative.
- Your relative has other medical problems that require skilled nursing care.
Are there other reasons why you might consider nursing home placement?
- You are concerned about the risk of your relative's health declining in a nursing home.
- You are worried that your relative will receive less individual attention in a nursing home.
- You will feel too much guilt or anxiety about putting your relative in a nursing home.
- A nursing home costs much more than caring for your relative at home.
- The facility may have a waiting list if you have not planned ahead.
Are there other reasons why you might consider caring for your relative at home?
These personal stories may be helpful in making your decision.
Wise Health Decision
Use this worksheet to help you make your decision. After completing it, you should have a better idea of how you feel about putting your relative in a nursing home. Discuss the worksheet with your doctor.
Circle the answer that best applies to you.
Caregiving is negatively affecting my health or well-being or that of my family. Yes No Unsure My relative has developed medical or behavioural problems that require more care than I can provide. Yes No Unsure My relative has become a danger to himself/herself, me, or my family. Yes No Unsure I am healthy enough and physically strong enough to take care of my relative. Yes No Unsure I can afford to devote most of my time to caregiving. Yes No Unsure I have other family members and friends who can help with caregiving. Yes No Unsure I have medical problems that are making it difficult to take care of my relative. Yes No Unsure There is a long-term care facility in my community that I trust. Yes No Unsure The cost of nursing home care will be an unbearable hardship. Yes No Unsure Use the following space to list any other important concerns you have about this decision.
What is your overall impression?
Your answers in the above worksheet are meant to give you a general idea of where you stand on this decision. However, you may have one overriding reason to put your relative in a nursing home or to keep him or her at home.
Check the box below that represents your overall impression about your decision.
Leaning toward putting my relative in a nursing home
Leaning toward keeping my relative at home
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| Author: | Douglas Dana Sabra L. Katz-Wise Ralph Poore | Last Updated: January 26, 2007 |
| Medical Review: | Adam Husney, MD - Family Medicine Andrew Swan, MD, CCFP, FCFP - Family Medicine Peter J. Whitehouse, MD - Neurology | |
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